Final TIB essay

Do You Want Some Cheese with That Whine?

            As a child I did not fuss and complain any more than any other child, but my grievances were always meet with one specific saying, “do you want some cheese with that whine?’ I remember the first time my father said that to me and how mad it made me. That is not what I wanted to hear, all I wanted was for him to give into my demands.  I did not realize what my father was trying to tell me until it was too late.

            My father died when I was 16. Even though he was a young man, his heart decided it was time for him to go. While I performed CPR, my mother went to call 911, and my little 7-year-old sister slept in the next room, all I could think about was not waking her up. All I cared about was that her last memory of her father could not, would not, be of him lying on floor, slightly discolored. After the ambulance came and took my father away, I was left alone with my thoughts and my little sister. She woke up shortly after they left and crawled into my lap. Not long after that, she started to grumble because she wanted to know where Mommy and Daddy were, when they would be home, and if we could go swimming. As clear as it was yesterday, I remember looking down at her and saying, “Do you want some cheese with that whine?” 

             That was the first time I ever uttered those words, but it would not be the last. As the next week unfolded I had many other moments like this one, realizing that I was doing exactly what my father used to do. I was slowly but surely taking over the void he left in our lives when he died. My mother lost herself in her grief for the next year, while my little sister refused to let me out of her sight. Those first weeks are still a total blur in my mind except that first morning when I uttered those fateful words.  The small sayings and ideas that my father used to take care of his family had now become my little sayings and my ideas. It took some time, but I also came to realize that all those times he said that phrase that always upset me; he was trying to teach me to be like him.

            I believe in the love of a father for his daughter and I believe in the love of a daughter for her family. I have never regretting taking over where my father left off. When it came to driving my sister to the doctor, cooking dinner, running the errands, coaching little girls soccer, or holding my mother while she cried herself to sleep; I was only more than happy to comply. I believe, in this world, if you do not find someone or something to fill the voids in your heart
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you will not be here for long. I found solace in my fathers’ passing by making sure my family was taken care of.  He taught me to stop yammering, look up, and press on. I now believe that where there is whining there should always be a little bit of cheese.

Credits

Thanks to GettyImages and the artists: T-Pool/Stock 48

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Music By: Dave Matthews Band “The Dreaming Tree”

TIB

This is what I have done so far but I have been able to complete my voice over yet. I also decided to change the music from what I originally chose because I found out how to pick a song from my own library. I also know that I am going to have to turn down the music so that you can hear what I am going to say.

TIB music and images

I am not very good at linking items to my blogs so if this does not work I apologize. I have picked on song based on the fact that when I read the title it made me stop and think. I also was moved by the music once it started playing and it was long enough to last the whole time I was reading so I did not have to pick more than one. The images I picked were based only on the title of my essay, "Do You Want Some Cheese with that Whine?" They are simply pictures that I liked and they made sense with what I was talking about.  http://www.firstcom.com/#/themed-playlists.aspx?playlistId=78 This song is under Trailers, Emotional: #9 Within.
www.gettyimages.com, I do not know how to link them all to this page but they are all on that website. I wrote down the specific # for each.
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IDEA

The objective that really stuck out for me was 10:  “Developing a clearer understanding of, and commitment to, personal values." One of the idea purposes of a bachelor's degree education is to educate the whole person, not just in the skills needed for a specific job, but in the understanding, experiences, and critical thinking skills needed to participate actively in adult life. To be wholly education, then, a student must define, understand, refine and commit to personal values that will serve that person in the future. All three assignments have elements of this objective, but the "This I Believe" essay is built solidly around this objective. I have never really noticed until now that most of my class have done just this. The were not solely interested in what grades I got or what it meant to them. The teachers that I have had were more interested in getting me to understand why I needed to know this information and how it would help me be a better person; not only in my professional life but in my personal life as well. I also do not know how much I agree with Objective 8. It seems that for this class only being two credit hours I have wrote more than any of my other classes; even when you combine all of them. I also feel like after a while you simply get burnt out on writing everything down and start to turn in crappy work.

This I believe...

        Before I knew it I had spent 45 minutes reading different stories on the This I believe website. I think that means that I am officially hooked. I have never been one for sappy stories or even stories about good works, but this site offered something different. Not only are those real people who are just like me but they are putting their deepest secrets out there for the whole world to share. I imagine as easy as this assignment looks it is going to be the hardest one I have to do in this class. After going through about 20 This I believe essay's I found one that spoke to me on a personal level. It is called, "Always go to the Funeral". I was immediately drawn to this title because I have not gone to funeral since my dad died. It has been this idea that I have had since I was 16 and attending my fathers' funeral. It was the longest, most exhausting day of my life and I never realized what it meant to be truly tired until then. I read This I Believe story and while it made sense to me it did not change how I feel about going to funerals. I do, however, have the utmost respect and thanks for the people who came to my fathers' funeral. I do not blame the ones who did not because I think if I had to do it over again I would have stayed home to be alone with his memory.
http://thisibelieve.org/essay/8/

Math or English?

I have often had the conversation with people about whether or not they would rather be good at English or Math. I have come to discover that the answer can vary from person to person. Of course people who are good at Math always pick Math and people who are good at English always picks English. This week went over sentence structures in class which most people find tedious and worthless. I am one of those people who always say that I would rather be good at English instead of Math, which I am. The reason I would chose English is because you use it everyday in every interaction that you have with every person you meet. English is important in your verbal interaction that you have everyday including job interviews. If you do not have a good background in grammar and proper English you will never make it through the interview process. I also think it is important when it comes to any type of correspondence. Whether you are filling out an application, writing an informational email, filling out an questionnaire, or writing an evaluation English is important. When you turn a resume to a perspective employer if you have even one item misspelled or a missed punctuation they immediately throw it away. While you need Math as well it is not needed everyday in every situation.

Week 4: How do I work with Others

This week in class we were put into groups according to how our personality tests turned out. I was interested in who I was going to be paired up with  because I generally like to work alone instead of in groups. I was relieved to find out that I was only compatible with one other person, Kristen. I had never worked with her on anything before and did not really know her at all. She is not only someone I did not know but she is graduating this quarter in Fashion. It was interesting to listen to what she had to say and to learn how she thought the personality test affected her. We got along really well which was nice because we both had the same ideas about how we wanted to present our poster. She wanted to draw out a sketch piece before we actually put our final ideas on the big board....I loved this idea! We are both OCD when it comes to how items look and what we want other people to see. I was really glad we go to work together and hope to be able to work with her again.